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Utilize Everything, Take Risk, Don’t Settle, Practice over Perfection & Words of Thanks

Posted on February 24, 2012 by edwards87

Principle: Utilize Everything & Take more Risk In changing behaviour, there will be an element of uncertainty and challenge involved in going outside of the ranges of how I normally act (my comfort zone/safe haven). This visceral feeling of tension … Continue reading →

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Investigating and Rewriting the Self-schema, Identifying my Values, Goal-Setting and Creating a Vision for the Future

Posted on February 22, 2012 by edwards87

Practice: Investigating and Rewriting the Self-schema In Part III, I suggested an action exercise on writing out what is currently in your Self-schema. Writing out the content of my Self-schema makes me aware of what kind of a person I … Continue reading →

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Establishing Healthy Boundaries, Emotional Completion, Diagnosing Addictions and Removing Lifestyle Stressors

Posted on February 20, 2012 by edwards87

Socio-emotional Needs In addition to the basic human needs for air, light, water, food, sleep, strength and mobility, we also have social and emotional needs. As social animals, we have a need for social acceptance and we like to relate, … Continue reading →

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Integrity, Self-trust, Locus of Control and Being with the Weirdness

Posted on February 15, 2012 by edwards87

Principle: Integrity and Self-trust “Without integrity, nothing works.” ~ Erhard, Jensen & Zaffron, 2009 ~ According to Werner Erhard, an important aspect of integrity is keeping my word. Keeping my word means doing what I say I will. When I … Continue reading →

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Setting High Standards & the Actual and Ideal Self

Posted on February 6, 2012 by edwards87

Accepting Responsibility “The starting point of maturity is the realization that no one is coming to the rescue. Everything you are or ever will be is entirely up to you.” ~ Brian Tracy ~ If I want to make a … Continue reading →

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Selective Attention & the Self-schema

Posted on January 25, 2012 by edwards87

Selective attention (or attention bias) In reality, there are a lot of different things we could be paying attention to at any given time. Because we can never focus on everything that’s out there, a selection has to be made … Continue reading →

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Summary, Completion and the Capacity for Challenge

Posted on January 20, 2012 by edwards87

The incomplete needs company In a state of unprocessed past hurts, the wounded individual doesn’t feel whole. Like I wrote earlier: Deep down, the child knows that something just isn’t right. This intuitive feel is spot on as the child’s … Continue reading →

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Pain & Hurt

Posted on January 16, 2012 by edwards87

Pain and hurt Most people don’t like pain, they want to feel good and be happy. Unfortunately, painting on a happy smile when you feel like shit does not work. No amount of joyous masks or putting on a happy … Continue reading →

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The parent/child Trust Bridge and Trauma/Abuse

Posted on January 11, 2012 by edwards87

Defenceless child It is quite paradoxical that the child is usually more eager to explore new things than the adult, as the child is much more vulnerable. The child is physically small and not very strong, yet seems unfazed by … Continue reading →

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The Need for Preditability & the Need for Exploration

Posted on January 9, 2012 by edwards87

Part II: Carefree Child “There are vaults in your nervous system, where you store whatever pain, stress and bad memories you have. You have to dive back into that trauma, go back and do the same tricks that hurt you, … Continue reading →

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